National ASL Day

On April 15th every year, we celebrate American Sign Language (ASL)!

Today is also when American School for the Deaf (ASD) in West Hartford, CT was founded, in the year 1817. Formerly named Connecticut Asylum for the Deaf and Dumb is the first permanent school for the deaf in the United States. There was originally another school for the deaf that opened in Virginia but that was short-lived.

At ASD, there were many signs being used - French Sign Language, Martha’s Vineyard Sign Language and Native American Signs. The combination of all three became American Sign Language!

I’m very fortunate that ASL was created so that I could have access to information and have the ability to communicate. I grew up learning how to speak and lipread first which is known as the oralism method. Alexander Graham Bell (yes, the same guy who invented telephone) was the one who encouraged oralism and tried to dissolve sign language. I wrote a whole blog about the nonfiction book which explains the history of AGB and the deaf community here.

Almost 4 years old, I learned ASL when my family relocated from New Jersey to New York. My parents couldn’t find a program that focused on oralism so I was introduced to total communication (talk, lipread AND sign language).

To this day, sign language will always be the primary language which I feel the most confident using and I feel able to express more this way. I’m grateful that we’re celebrating the beautiful American Sign Language today on April 15th!

I love seeing ASL getting more recognition in the media. Many commercials have sign language! It’s a huge difference from my childhood years when seeing sign language was a rare opportunity. If you are interested in learning ASL, please seek out a deaf educator. It is highly recommended that you learn from someone within the deaf community, from someone who has the best knowledge of the culture. You can find more information here.

Happy signing!

stay at Williams 1807 House in old mystic, ct

If you have ever driven through the intersection in the hamlet of Old Mystic, you might’ve noticed a beautiful blue colonial home donning patriotic buntings and flag. Located across the street from the former Old Mystic general store, I’ve photographed this historical gem many times as well as the 1784 Denison House (formerly The Old Mystic Inn) next door.

Imagine my surprise when I found out that both houses are Airbnb rentals! You can actually stay in these historical home! I contacted the owners - Debbie and Paul who graciously gifted me a two nights stay in the 1807 Williams House. A spacious house with 5 bedrooms, 3.5 bath, living room, common room, kitchen and more. It can fit up to 10 guests. The best part… it’s also dog friendly! I know how difficult it can be to find stays that allow dogs.

This was a home away from home! Well… beside the cozy King bed! I may have to beg for a King this upcoming holiday season! I enjoyed working at the desk in the bedroom as it faced the mural. There are murals throughout the house, representing Mystic Seaport. I loved this as I love to spending time walking around the Seaport with my pup! It was so fun to spot familiar buildings on the murals. Debbie put together an amazing guidebook for the area and she credits Susan Dywer Leach as the muralist.

The process of checking-in was so easy with a keyless entry and digital guidebook provided by Debbie and Paul via e-mail. I loved this digital guidebook and thought it was genius! It listed everything from house rules, WIFI information, explanations of how to use something in the house, to local recommendations. I used this digital guidebook a few times during the stay. Debbie and Paul really go out of their way to make you feel welcome and armed with this treasure trove of information about Mystic! I enjoyed a delicious apple pie they left.    

As I mentioned there are murals dedicated to Mystic Seaport throughout the house, and the theme is complete with nautical decorations on display. It was cool to see some nautical antiques! Of course, I was like a moth to the flame when I saw the plethora of books presented in every room!

The house has a total of 3 floors. It felt like a fun maze to explore! My favorite rooms were the living room and kitchen on the main floor. The living room is donned in red, white and blue. Very patriotic! The kitchen is a very cozy space, there is a fireplace with two armchairs to lounge in. The house came with plenty of things for visitors such as puzzles, games, books, a high chair, pack-n-play and even a play area for kids in the attic.

The entire time during my stay here was cloudy and rainy. The house was veryyyy cozy for days like that! There’s just something about old houses being perfect for rainy days. It was comfortable to lounge around (when I wasn’t working). There was a small table right by the front windows in the living room that was perfect for playing games. There’s a cabinet full of games and puzzles. You will never get bored in this house with all it had to offer.

My dog enjoyed the walks we took around the neighborhood. There are walkable sidewalks right in front of the house and around Old Mystic. There is a park behind the house where my dog could run around. I saw kids playing there too. We could’ve went for a longer walk on River Road - the scenic route overlooking Mystic River if it was nicer outside. If you don’t have dogs with you, I would recommend a bike ride so you can see more of the route (it’s a really long route - 3 miles by car).

This stay is perfect for large families, as you can rent the house next door or The Smith Cottage. There was a connecting path between all houses. It’s also away from the busy bustle of Downtown so you get some peace in this adorable little hamlet! Plenty of parking spaces in the driveway (Williams House shares 5 parking spaces with The Smith Cottage).

If you’re thinking of a Fall getaway to Mystic - this house is a half mile down the road from B.F. Clyde’s Cider Mill. How perfect would that be to wake up early and pop over for a cider donut?! It’s 2 minutes drive or 15 minutes walk. Olde Mistick Village is located 1.5 miles down the other direction from this house too. Olde Mistick Village is opened year-round offering shopping, a pizza restaurant, coffee shop, seasonal ice cream store, a movie theater and more.

Overall, I loved our stay at Williams 1807 house and would recommend this place! I was sad to leave. I drive through the intersection in Old Mystic on a daily basis so now it will make me smile when I recall the fun I had staying there! If you prefer something smaller, look into other properties owned by Debbie and Paul. They have another house with 3 bedrooms in Mystic and they rent out rooms in the Denison House (the former Old Mystic Inn). More information can be found here (website) or Airbnb here.

Thank you Debbie and Paul for being such a gracious host. All opinions are my own.

A novel day in New Haven, CT

I celebrated my birthday this past weekend. It’s always hard to plan a fun getaway in the middle of winter. I decided that my love for books would make New Haven a perfect destination. I got the inspiration from two women who were bookstore hopping in Kent, CT during fall. I thought that was a brilliant idea!

In New Haven, there are so many bookstores, libraries and museums within walking distance, and all indoors! And it was very low cost as I only had to pay for parking and snacks. I ate lunch beforehand and didn’t stay long enough to eat dinner in New Haven, so if you do - look into the pizzerias. New Haven is known for their pizza!


Here is the itinerary of my bookish day:

Beinecke Rare Books and Manuscript Library

For the longest time, I’ve been seeing photos of this library on Instagram. I had to finally check this off my bucket list! The largest building in the world devoted to books. There were over a million books, manuscripts and more. It was a beautiful sight to see all the books. I took my time, sitting in one of the comfy chairs around the library to take in the sights!

Yale’s Sterling Memorial Library

I’ve passed this iconic library several times on my walks around Yale campus but have never gone inside. On reason why is cause I’ve always had my pup with me. It was too cold for her to join me this weekend so I finally got my chance. I WAS BLOWN AWAY. The library was GORGEOUS. It is built in the collegiate gothic style (resembling a European cathedral). There are many beautiful stained glass windows everywhere (later on, I read there is a total of 3,300!). All the study spaces were stunning, I’m jealous of the students who gets to enjoy the beauty of the library on a daily basis! It would be a dream to work there!

Grey Matter Books

A small bookstore with many used books! The books were mostly unique, rare and unusual. I enjoyed looking through the older editions of classics. The atmosphere was very laid back and relaxing. Chairs were scattered throughout the bookstore for people to take a seat while browsing. There were multiple piles of book stack everywhere.

Atticus Bookstore Cafe

Located on the first floor next to Yale Center for British Art, it is a small bookstore and cafe. The bookstore had beautifully curated organized sections of books. I loved browsing through the ‘staff recommendations’ and ‘best books of the year’ sections. The cafe was bustling, with nearly every table occupied.

Yale Center for British Art

This isn’t a ‘bookish’ spot but worthwhile to check out! It had a large collection of British art. It was organized by time period, making it easy to maneuver through the gallery. They suggest starting at the 4th floor and working your way down. My favorite was The Long Gallery on the 4th floor. A gallery with the walls covered in paintings. I could see myself take a seat and study the art!

Yale University Art Gallery

The oldest university art museum has four levels of extensive art collections from African Art, Asian Art, paintings, sculptures, Early European art, photographs, drawings, coins and many more. It had plenty to see! I didn’t get to see the entire gallery because of timing, so be sure to plan at least half a day for this. I was excited to spot some of my favorite painters like Monet. The building itself is also gorgeous!

Book Trader Cafe

This bookstore was really crowded when I visited. I didn’t get to see much of it unfortunately, but I did see that it had a good selection of used books from $1-$10. The atrium side of the shop was really busy, it is a cool spot where the tables were surrounded by bookshelves. The cafe sold coffee, drinks, pastries and more.

The Yale Bookstore

Every time I come to the Yale campus, I always pop into Barnes and Noble (The Yale Bookstore) to browse through the Yale memorabilia and souvenirs. Of course, I also browse through the books, especially the Yale authors section. Did you know that the author of Ninth House and Hell Bent, Leigh Bardugo is a Yale alumni?


It was a fun book themed day and I enjoyed my time in New Haven! I love Yale with all of its gorgeous gothic architecture. There’s so many details that I continue to find new-to-me every time I visit. New Haven has plenty more that I didn’t share here such as shops, restaurants, more museums, so forth. It’s easy to do a day trip here during the winter! I had the perfect evening at home reading Ninth House which the opening scene was at the Beinecke Rare Books and Manuscripts Library while drinking delicious tea in my brand new Yale mug!

A Tribute to Sue Thomas

As a teenager, I eagerly sat down in front of my television with the closed caption decoder box - TeleCaptions II. The TeleCaptions II was stacked on top of the VCR player, plugged into the TV so I could watch any movie or show with closed captions. This was during early 2000’s - when closed captioning was just beginning to be available on some shows/movies - when I didn’t need to use the box every time.

One of the shows that I obsessively watched was ‘Sue Thomas: F.B. Eye’. It was a TV series based on the real life of Sue Thomas, a deaf woman who was a professional lip reader for the FBI in Washington D.C. She was the first deaf person to work undercover for the FBI.

Sue Thomas was born in Ohio in 1950, became profoundly deaf at 18 months for unknown reasons. She was raised orally - learning speech and lipreading. She wasn’t fluent in sign language. From 1979-1983 she worked for the FBI. In 1990 she wrote a memoir titled ‘Silent Night’ about her experiences.

The book was the inspiration for the TV series ‘Sue Thomas: F.B. Eye’. The show that I would grow up to watch and admire Sue. She was a deaf role model for me. Remember back then, with no internet or social media - I didn’t have any deaf role models to look up to. That only gave me Sue Thomas, Marlee Matlin and Heather Whitestone (Miss America 1995).

I loved the show. I was in awe that a deaf person was working for the FBI. At this point, my interest in criminal justice was well established. I wanted to follow in her steps and go work for the FBI. That goal stayed with me through out high school and half of my college years. I might’ve changed my path but Sue Thomas remained a large influence in my life.

Sue Thomas made her way to Heaven on December 13, 2022 at the age of 72. I am feeling very sad for losing one of my role models. She was an inspiring person with so much love and care for the world! I encourage you to re-watch the series (available for free on Tubi) or read her book ‘Silent Night’ (available on Amazon).

Thank you Sue Thomas for making such a positive impact. You will always be remembered.

The real Sue Thomas on left with her service dog. The actress and dog on the right played Sue Thomas/service dog in ‘Sue Thomas: F.B. Eye’ TV show. Photo credit: Sue Thomas: F.B. Eye [Facebook].

Sue Thomas with her service dog, Rodney. Photo credit: Sue Thomas FBI [Facebook].

My Deaf voice

If you have met me in person, you will notice how I have an accent. It’s my ‘Deaf’ voice. I was raised in the oral method in New Jersey, where I was born. When my family moved to New York I was learning in the oral method + SEE (Signed Exact English). What is SEE? It’s sign language that follows English grammar. ASL has its own grammar rules different from English. I picked up on some ASL when I had an interpreter with me in my mainstreamed classes from Grade 5 until high school graduation.

I took countless hours of speech therapy from 3 years old until freshman year of college. 16 years. I had to memorize how to pronounce words. I don’t hear myself talk. I never will. So many people have said to me how impressed they are with how well I speak for a Deaf person. I talk so well that some people doubted that I was Deaf, they think I am Hard of Hearing.

When I went to RIT (college in Rochester, NY), I immersed myself in the Deaf world. But I was criticized for using my voice. Why?! It was highly frowned upon to use your voice while signing simultaneously, this was the only way I knew how to communicate! They had an insult sign, which was the sign for ‘hearing’ on the forehead - I was called that a few times. That insult is most common towards Deaf people who looks more ‘hearing’ based on their signs/using voice/oral/etc. I’ve gotten mistaken many times as a hearing person.

This was the hardest part about trying to find my place within my world. This weighed on me so heavily that I went through a period of depression over my identity.

Being back in the hearing world now, I’ve learned a lot since then. I realized that it was important for me to continue using my voice because my family relies upon it. We also use sign language so using both helps them to understand me better. I’ve decided to accept that this is the best way for me to communicate.

I have stopped using my voice when I go out in public. I realized that once people see me using my voice, they automatically rely on that. It puts all the burden of communication onto me. I have to lip read and talk. I don’t lip read well! When I don’t use my voice, they focus on other ways to communicate (paper-and-pen or Notes app on the phone).

When I am around Deaf people or anyone who uses ASL, I do try to drop my voice. It’s such a hard, hard, hard habit to break after using sim-com for 16 years. Most often my voice would be very quiet or some words still gets pronounced (quietly). I still use sim-com when I’m around my hearing family and friends. I do hope that my voice helps them to understand me, but I would always appreciate if they took some of the burden off me by learning a little sign language.

My ‘Deaf’ voice is something that I’ve took a long time to accept. I’ve got questioned a few times about why my voice sounds funny. My favorite question is always the “Where are you from?”. I can play around and throw out random locations. But it’s also something that I am very self-conscious about because I know my accent isn’t perfect. It obviously sounds different. I always muted all videos on social media. I don’t want to get bullied over my voice.

Many people don’t realize that when a Deaf person talks it is based from memorization. We learned all of that in speech therapy. I never can tell the tone of my voice, as much I try to control that. Sometimes I don’t always realize the volume of my voice too. I learned how to pronounce every single word by memorization. Imagine learning how to swim without being in a pool then you swim based on memorization! That is what talking is for me!

Fall Road Trip Through Southern New Hampshire and Vermont

For the long weekend in October, I wanted to go on a camping trip so I went to Hancock, New Hampshire. Located in southern NH, on the border of Massachusetts. Hancock was perfect because it is only 2 and half hours from Mystic, CT.

I also wanted to go somewhere that had amazing foliage! It’s often recommended to go more northern into the White Mountain region (Conway, Franconia, etc). So many New Englanders love going to Vermont or New Hampshire for leaf peeping. I have never gone further north than the CT border during fall, I had to see what I was missing out on!

My itinerary looked like this:

Day 1 — Hancock

I arrived in Hancock, NH around 3pm. After setting up the camper at the campground, I went exploring the small town of Hancock. There was a downtown historical village. A beautiful historical church with old horse stables. The pond behind the church had a small beach. This turned out to be a perfect spots for photographing the foliage! My favorite had to be the gazebo in the town green and Hancock Market. The market was one of those small town stores with a beautiful facade. Very quintessential New England!

Hancock Market in Hancock, NH.

Quintessential New England home in Hancock, NH.

Day 2 — Peterborough/Dublin/Jaffrey/Rindge

A day of road tripping on the rural roads. I stopped in Peterborough first, a good sized small town with a downtown. A lot of antiques shops! There was a large plaza with many stores and restaurants. Of course, I popped in the bookstore which had a section of discounted used books. I fell in love with a cafe that had excellent gluten free options. I had ‘The Southern Comfort’ which was chicken and waffles and it was AMAZING. I even came back to get two meals for the road/leftovers to store at home. Unfortunately they have since closed their doors permanently.

Peterborough, NH.

A beautiful church in Peterborough, NH.

A woman reading a book in a Peterborough park.

Dublin was an even smaller town. There was a historical village district with town hall, police station, fire department, church, library and home of Yankee Magazine. There isn’t much to see here, but it’s very picturesque! There happened to be a touch-a-truck event at the fire department so we took our Dalmatian to photograph her with the trucks. While at the event, someone recommended I drive up the road to the water. It was the best recommendation, some of my best photos were taken right there! It was so gorgeous with the foliage.

My pup with the Dublin Fire Department truck.

Dublin Pond in Dublin, NH.

Jaffrey was another small town with a downtown area. It was adorable to see their scarecrows event. I drove over the border to check out Cathedral of the Pines. An open-air cathedral with panoramic views of Grand Monadnock. It was so stunning! My jaw literally dropped at the views (remember… even more beautiful with the foliage!). While I was there, the space was being set up for a wedding. I only can imagine the beautiful wedding photos with that backdrop!

Cathedral of the Pines.

Day 3 — Brattleboro, VT and Keene

I never had been to Vermont. Brattleboro was less than a hour drive from Hancock. I walked around a downtown filled with many shops. I enjoyed Brattleboro Books, a used books store. Brattleboro had a very artistic vibe with many murals in town. I do have to mention that it was really difficult to have my pup because many shops did not allow pets. I stopped in Against the Grain, one of my favorite gluten free brands. Their warehouse had a small store with their products and bakery goods. I grabbed some whoopie pies, muffins and brownies. So good!

Brattleboro Books.

Keene was the biggest city I visited in New Hampshire. The downtown was only blocks away from a college so there were many shops, restaurants and businesses. I spotted the Parrish Shoes mural on one of the buildings and was excited to learn that the movie, Jumanji was filmed there! My favorite store was the Hannah Grimes Marketplace. It had many local artisans goods. Also, if you’re into fire stations - the Keene Fire Department was pretty impressive with an older building across the street from the current building.

The Jumanji mural in Keene, NH.

The Main Street of Keene.

Keene Fire Department.

STAY: Spacious Skies Seven Maples Campground / Hancock, NH

I stayed at Seven Maples campground. It was a very idyllic setting, surrounded by the trees. The campground was very spacious, had a fun game room and clean facilities, the people there are friendly. Very family oriented campground with many activities for families to participate. The weekend we were there, they had hayrides, Halloween costumes parade and trick-n-treating. A beautiful pond where you can go catch-and-release fishing.

Enjoying a good book by the campfire!

Southern New Hampshire isn’t really a tourist destination, being a very rural area, but it was simple and relaxing. It definitely is the ideal photographers destination! I saw so many photographers everywhere. There was plenty of spaces where you could easily pull off the road. I loved exploring on the rural roads, taking us through many historical districts. I appreciate how many historical buildings we have in New England. The area also had plethora of covered bridges too! The weekend in NH was very enjoyable. It motivated me to plan a trip more north of NH during fall another time!

One of few maple sugar shacks I saw in NH.

One of gorgeous sceneries I saw on the back roads in NH.

Celebrating Deaf Authors

For Deaf Awareness Month, I complied a list of d/Deaf books that I recommend:

True Biz by Sara Novic [adult fiction]

This will always be one of my favorite Deaf books! It is a fiction read, following three characters at a deaf school. I found this to be a very informative read. It covered a variety of important topics within the deaf community such as the risks of deaf schools closing, the controversy of cochlear implants and language depravation. The book also shows the spectrum of deaf lives. Each character is deaf but are so different based on their communication methods. The book reads like a love letter to deaf community!

El Deafo by Cece Bell [middle grade/graphic novel]

An adorable graphic novel about deafness. It follows a girl who transferred to a new school. She showed and taught people about her deafness. The artwork in this graphic novel was very clear and showed how to interact with deaf kids. I laughed and cried. I could relate so well because I changed schools in 5th grade. I strongly recommend this book to young adults/kids but even adults would enjoy this too!

Haben, The DeafBlind Woman Who Conquered Harvard Law by Haben Girma [memoir]

A memoir by the first DeafBlind person to graduate from Harvard Law. It shared her experiences from her childhood up to her college years. I found her to be a very strong and influential person. This book shows how to be a strong advocate. It was written beautifully, especially when the author shows her humor. I have been following her on social media where she continues to teach, so I’m still learning! It’s important that we recognize the spectrum of the deaf community which includes the deaf blind community. Haben’s story is an aspiring example.

You Don’t Know Everything, Jilly P! By Alex Gino [middle grade/fiction]

A fiction YA read about Jilly who has a new deaf baby sister. Her family maneuvers through deafness, finding the best resources for the baby sister. Jilly also has a new deaf friend who teaches her how to be an ally. I appreciated that the author explained, in the author’s note, how they were not deaf so that’s why Jilly was a hearing character. The author did not want to be inauthentic so they wrote the perspective of a hearing person learning about deafness.

Silent Alarm, On the Edge with a Deaf EMT by Steven L. Schrader [memoir]

I was excited to find this book when I joined the ambulance organization as a first responder a long time ago. It was really interesting to read about the author’s experiences and how it differs from mine, he was in a large/busy city while I was in a small town. There were still so many stories and experiences that I could relate to, as well the challenges and discrimination. This book was very encouraging to chase your dream. Well written book!

The Invention of Miracles, Language, Power and Alexander Graham Bell’s Quest to end Deafness by Katie Booth [non fiction/history]

One of most powerful books about deaf history. Alexander Graham Bell is known to many as the telephone inventor but he was controversial figure in the deaf community. He wanted to eliminate sign language and deafness. Bell was a huge supporter of the oral method education for deaf students. I read this well researched book and learned a lot! It’s also frustrating to see how much AGB shaped my life. I had plenty more to say about this book so here is a dedicated blog.

T4 by Anne Clare LeZotte [young adult/historical fiction/poetry]

Nazi Germany adopted the sterilization law program from the United States. The program was renamed T4. The Jewish people weren’t the only ones targeted, also disabled, mentally challenged, deaf, gay, people of color and many more. This book is a historical fiction, written in poetry style. It is a fast read with only 108 pages but powerful enough! There aren’t many stories about T4 or deaf experiences in Holocaust.

The William Hoy Story by Nancy Churnin [children/picture book/biography]

An adorable picture book about the deaf baseball player, William Hoy. Did you know baseball signs were created because of him?? The universal signs you see for Ball, Strike, Out, etc. It wasn’t common to use sign language back in the 1880s. While playing baseball, Hoy asked umpires to help him understand the games, they came up with hand gesture/signals and that’s how it came to fruition. I enjoyed this picture book about Hoy’s life and the history of baseball signs.

I’ll Scream Later by Marlee Matlin [memoir]

A memoir about her experiences in Hollywood, also some from her personal upbringing. She was one of my idols growing up because there were so few successful deaf people visibly out there. She is very honest and blunt, she shares and doesn’t hold anything back in this memoir. It was very interesting to read! I laughed at some parts because Marlee focused on 1980’s-2000s era, which included the technology we used back then. In the book, Marlee mentioned the closed captioning box… I remember toting that box to sleepovers. I met Marlee in Rochester, NY during her book tour in 2009. I was so excited and so shy, I froze and couldn’t say anything to her!

Hands of My Father, A Hearing Boy, His Deaf Parents, and the Language of Love by Myron Uhlberg [memoir]

A memoir by a CODA (Child of Deaf Adult/s). Beautifully written. He lived in Brooklyn, NY during the Great Depression with his deaf parents. This was my first CODA book. He shared a lot, especially the resentment/burden that he felt with having to interpret for his parents. Yet, he had a very close relationship with his dad. I was mesmerized by the way he wrote about his dad’s signing/hand movements. Even through this book was from my deaf culture but it felt foreign to me! Worthwhile to read because CODAs are part of the deaf spectrum.

Song for a Whale by Lynne Kelly [young adult/fiction]

The book focuses on the isolation of a deaf girl in the hearing world. Iris is a 12 years old who is mainstreamed in a hearing school. She is often lonely and her classmates saw her as stupid. Iris learned about a hybrid whale that has its own song, that other whales doesn’t recognize. As a result, the hybrid whale is isolated and lonely. Iris was able to relate with the whale so she seeks out a solution to this problem. This book struck a chord because I understood the isolation. Heartwarming and adorable book!

Train Go Sorry, Inside a Deaf World by Leah Hager Cohen [nonfiction]

Even through the book was published in 1995, it still is worthwhile to read! It focuses on many stories of students, staff and alumni from a deaf school in NYC. It was a very engaging book, including debates within the deaf world - oral vs ASL, cochlear implants, etc. The book also included the history of the deaf school. The author herself was not deaf, but was the daughter of the principal of the deaf school (back in 1995) and her grandfather had been one of the original deaf students at the school.

Show Me a Sign by Ann Clare LeZotte [middle grade/historical fiction]

A historical fiction about Martha’s Vineyard Sign Language. The author is deaf and did a great job of researching for this book. The book follows an 11 years old girl who lives on Martha’s Vineyard with her family. Despite it being sad in some parts, it is very fascinating to read about the history of Martha’s Vineyard and the deaf community!

Everyone Here Spoke Sign Language, Hereditary Deafness on Martha’s Vineyard by Nora Ellen Groce [non fiction/history]

A history/non fiction book about Martha’s Vineyard and its deaf community. The deaf community existed on the island from 17th century until around 20th century. There had been a large deaf population, so Martha’s Vineyard Sign Language was invented. The hearing islanders learned it too. Imagine an entire community that could communicate with each other! I wish this still existed today. It was a well researched book but I was disappointed that no deaf people were interviewed. Still very interesting to read about this deaf history!

Silent Night by Sue Thomas [memoir]

Sue Thomas had been one of my biggest role models growing up. There was a TV show called ‘Sue Thomas FB Eye’ that focused on her experience working for the FBI. I had a strong interest in criminal justice and ended up majoring in it at college. This book focuses more on her personal life, it was really interesting to read about one of my role models! It was heartbreaking because she had a tough life, but I appreciated her honesty. The book was still very enjoyable to read.

Deaf President Now! The 1988 Revolution at Gallaudet University by John B. Christiansen and Sharon M. Barnartt [nonfiction/history]

In 1988 at Gallaudet University, a college for the deaf located in Washington DC, had a week long protest. The deaf students got frustrated when a hearing president was appointed, when they had request for a deaf president. This became one of the most important deaf historical event. The week long protest did conclude in Gallaudet seeing their first deaf president, I. King Jordan. It is a very inspiring read. DEAF CAN!

Deaf Utopia: A Memoir - And a Love Letter to a Way of Life by Nyle DiMarco [memoir]

Nyle DiMarco, known from his time on American’s Next Top Model and Dancing with the Stars. He won both! This is a personal memoir written about his childhood, upbringing, his deaf family, and more. It definitely read like a love letter to ASL and deaf pride/culture. I’m 3 months older than Nyle, but our lives were so different. This is a good example that not all deaf lives are same. There were some parts where I could relate to similar life experiences. I enjoyed this memoir!

Deaf Child Crossing by Marlee Matlin [fiction/middle grade]

This book was released while I was in elementary school. It was my first book with a Deaf character, so this became really special for me! It focuses on a Deaf girl who makes a new friend in her neighborhood. The new hearing friend learns sign language to communicate with her. This also struck a chord with me, reminding me of my childhood friend that I grew up with, who also learned ASL to communicate with me. A beautiful book about friendship.

Give Me A Sign by Anna Sorino [YA fiction]

I loved this book that came out in 2023. The book covered a wide spectrum of Deaf identities. The story takes place at a deaf camp following Lilah, who struggles with being “not deaf enough”. Something I am very familiar with! I wish I had this book when I was a teen! The author did an amazing job of educating about communication (ASL vs voice), the cochlear implants controversy, ableism, and many more.

On The Bright Side by Anna Sorino [YA fiction]

Another amazing book from Anna Sorino — I related a lot to the main character, Ellie who had to go to a new school and be mainstreamed. She meets a new friend, Jackson who has his own disability. The friendship between them is powerful as they maneuver through their journeys of being disabled. I love having more books with deaf/hoh rep!

Signs of Survival by Renee Hartman with Joshua M. Greene [YA memoir]

Renee is a Holocaust survivor, with her deaf sister. The book focused on their experiences as Jews living during the war and the camp. It is a raw and powerful read. The book is a transcribed compilation of video interviews that Renee did for Yale’s Holocaust testimonies archive. There aren’t many stories including deaf people during the Holocaust so this is important book to read.

The Deaf Girl by Abigail Heringer [memoir]

I enjoyed this memoir as I was a fan of Abigail during her time on The Bachelor. This is the first memoir I’ve read about a deaf person with cochlear implants. It is very interesting to learn about her experiences and there were quite a few experiences that we had in common. There’s such a wide spectrum of deaf identities so I highly recommend to have this book on your to be read list!

I Deaf-initely Can, Rhett the Heeler by Karlie Waldrip [picture book]

Based on the author’s dog Rhett, the picture book is told from his perspective. It begins with his journey of being at the shelter and being adopted by his deaf owner. The book features deaf characters. Wonderful book about inclusion!

There are just some recommendations of what I’ve read… there are so many more d/Deaf books out there that I have yet to read! I encourage you to read these books to learn about the deaf culture and expand your knowledge about our deaf world!

How can you be accessible for the Deaf?

Recently I had a conversation with some of my family telling them how I love my dentist because of how accessible they are. I thought that I’d share this with you, especially if you are a business owner. How can you be accessible for the Deaf community?

It is in the Americans Disabilities Act (ADA) that all medical offices and businesses must provide an interpreter if a Deaf person requests one. Not all Deaf people will request an interpreter, so I thought I’d share how you still can provide accessibility without an interpreter.

I do not request an interpreter for the dentist because there’s so little conversation that takes place. So I feel comfortable to go sans interpreter. Every time I walk to the chair, I’m always impressed with how the hygienist has everything ready for me. There is a TV monitor near the chair that is typically used for viewing charts, x-ray scans, etc. She would have a Word document open with a message for me, greeting me and informing me about what’s on the schedule (we need to do x-ray pictures today, etc). She also has a notepad with pen ready on the chair. The hygienist would take the time to ask me questions and make sure I’m ready before she starts the cleaning. When the dentist comes to checkin, sometimes I can lip read her but the hygienist still types what is said. This is how you provide accessibility, offering ALL options. I have the option of lipreading or to look at the computer. It is so helpful because I do understand my dentist pretty well but I STILL miss some words here and there.

This was super helpful when my dentist was absent on one of my visits, I had a different dentist that day. It’s harder for me to lip read someone I not familiar with, that day I relied on the computer for all my information. Imagine if the hygienist didn’t do that? I would’ve left that day not knowing half of what was said.

As I mentioned, the hygienist places a notepad with pen on the chair. These days with technology it is easier for Deaf people to type notes on the phone if needed. The thoughtfulness of providing paper and pen even through I didn’t need them, still gives me the sense that the hygienist is trying. That act alone makes me much more comfortable, calms my nerves and I do not feel that communication with be stressful. She’s not leaving it all on me to ‘work’ for the communication, but making that line open for both of us. I appreciate her so much, she does this EVERY visit and never misses.

It still is so important to provide paper and pen especially if we don’t have access to our phones or something. For example in hospitals: if we are doing medical procedures, or are some place where phones are prohibited, and there’s no interpreter - you need to remember to give the Deaf people something to communicate their needs. It’s important to not only focus on HOW you can communicate, but also remember to give THEM that accessibility.

When people ask me if I can lip read, I know many aren’t aware that question can be ableist. It’s implying that the Deaf person should do all the work of lip reading, communicating, and understanding. Make the communication easier for the hearing people because that’s what they know. Think about if it was reverse, if we (Deaf people) ask EVERY hearing person we meet, “Do you know how to sign?”. I would think many of you may feel some kind of guilt (for not knowing sign) or feel pressured to communicate because of the implication behind the question.

The dentist office is the best accessibility out of all medical offices/appointments I’ve had in my lifetime. My doctor’s office is getting there too. Growing up, I’ve always relied on my parents to do all of the communication with my doctors but this is naturally for children. Once I moved to Connecticut I had to find a new doctor as an adult. My first Doctors was not a good experience, there was a lack of communication, accessibility issues and the office had difficulties providing me a certified interpreter.  After a while of this, I switched to a new doctor. I was so traumatized by the interpreter issues from the prior office that I didn’t request one with my current doctor. My family member does it all. However, I did noticed a growth of awareness over time with the doctor office. They email me instead of calling, I can email my doctor with questions directly. That gives me a huge sense of independence. The front office staff also seems to be learning some ASL.

I like to be looked at as an individual when I visit a business instead of relying on others for communication.  They should not rely on my family member to interpret for us. It gives me more confident when they give me that accessibility because that is a sense of independence for Deaf people. So how can you be better if you have a Deaf customer without an interpreter? Always have all options ready.

Aside from medical offices or professional businesses, I do favor stores and places where there’s someone who is helpful in communicating. When I have a great experience (even if it was only once), I’ll be a loyal customer. I have to admit that I even pay attention to the schedules so I know when a specific person would likely be working.

If you don’t have the ability to provide pen and paper, or there are no phones near by … gesturing still goes a long way. Patience too, I always get tense when I stand in a line, with more people behind me.  I have no idea how patient the employee would be with me. I’ll share one ‘wrong’ example. I went to a local donut shop to get donuts and coffee to surprise someone. I’m not familiar with coffee orders because I’m not a coffee drinker. I don’t know all the jargon. I asked for ‘white chocolate mocha coffee.’ The barista stood there and stared frozen at my phone screen.  I could sense that the wheels were turning in her mind, I knew she had a question. She didn’t ask. I pointed at the menu behind her, implying she could point to what she was trying to ask me. She didn’t do that, but instead walked to another employee and talked a little. That was it. I assumed she got the order. I ended up going home with an iced coffee with mocha syrup. I had asked for a HOT coffee and the coffee that was already white chocolate mocha flavored without additional flavors.

I was frustrated that she didn’t have the patience to gesture or try to ask her question. She didn’t even try to talk to me. That’s a huge wrong example how to treat your Deaf customers. I understand that the girl might’ve been nervous and never met a Deaf person so she froze. We are so used to that, we have the patience to wait and be sure that we are understood. We WANT to be understood. Do not assume. Just TRY.

I have so many more right and wrong stories but it’d make this blog post too long. I’m very willing to have further conversation with anyone who wants more tips or advices on how to provide accessibility. If your situation is more specific, please don’t hesitant to reach out to me for more help or ideas. It will make every Deaf person’s day if someone puts in the effort to provide accessibility for all of us at your business. Truthfully, that also will get you MORE customers because we will be raving about you.

Why the Blessing of the Fleet Is So Special in Stonington, Connecticut

Last week I shared the guide to visiting Stonington, CT. One of the annual July events, The Blessing of the Fleet was this past weekend. The Blessing of the Fleet has been happening for 60+ years in Stonington borough. A tradition to honor our fishermen and their families as well as remembering the ones we lost. Read more about it here.

This year was the first time that Town Dock hosted an Open House on Saturday. I attended and got a peek inside of the fishing vessels that I often photograph. I didn’t realize that I’d be walking away with an expanded knowledge and even MORE appreciation for our fishermen!

I toured two different type of fishing vessels:


F/V Tradition

This boat goes out for 2-4 days. If they catch squids, then it is shorter trip because squids doesn’t stay fresh for long. This crew is usually 2-4 people. The captain even sometimes goes out alone! The boat is a lot smaller compared to the scallop boat.


F/V Furious

The scallop boat goes out 6x a year, for 5-15 days at a time. There is usually a crew of 5-6 people. This boat was HUGE, close to 60 feet long. We started the tour on the deck, where the scallops first comes on board. They go through a sorting process (weeding out baby scallops, rocks, etc). Meanwhile, they only have 50 minutes before the next net of scallops comes in! The scallops are then brought into a room inside the vessel where they’re dumped into a trough. In there, the scallops are cut out of the shells and washed. 50 pounds of scallops are put into a bag that goes down a chute to the chilled storage space below the deck.

Another surprising fact that I learned was that the captain actually helps with this process WHILE piloting the boat from that room. That room is in the back of the boat so there is no direct view of water in the front. This processing room does have a GPS/spotter that the captain uses to navigate.

After learning the processing of scallops, we saw the gallery and kitchen. I watch too many TV shows, so I always thought fishermen doesn’t shower while they’re out on the seas. I can confirm that F/V Furious DOES have a shower! The fisherman also shared that they bring about $3K worth of food for their voyage. They work in 6 hour shifts. Every day they must report about their catch: how many they got, what trip and even the location, all this information goes to the regulatory committee.  It is important that the scallops, and all other seafood, are not over fished.


F/V Furious also can be limited to where they can fish on the water, which is why the regulatory committee also need to know their location. While we were touring the piloting section of the boat (called the wheelhouse), they answered any questions that people had.  We were told one story about a recent gas fill up that ran over $40K. The crew is not paid a salary, instead each crew member is given some portion of shares of the profit, so unfortunately they all feel the pain of raising supply costs.

I always had an appreciation for our fishermen, but this tour allowed us to ask all the questions and learn more in depth about their trips. Obviously I never knew all of the behind-the-scene details - how long they leave for, how much things cost them, how long their shifts are, etc. This tour showed how they truly work hard to bring amazing fresh seafood to our shoreline town. I’m really glad that the Town Dock hosted the Open House this year!

Please support them by purchasing LOCAL seafood. There is a Sea Well right there at the town dock. The seafood is in a freezer and it is a honor system, you pay for what you get (there’s a price list in the window). See more retailers (and restaurants!) that has Stonington Fresh seafood here.

Please inform me if I got any facts incorrect as it was a verbal tour. I didn’t think to take notes as I did not expect to have my knowledge expanded as much it did!

Slow Down in Stonington, Connecticut: A Local-Style Travel Guide

A hop over from Mystic, visit the quintessential New England historical town of Stonington. The borough quickly became a favorite place of mine when I first moved here. I was drawn to the beautiful homes lining the main street. Stonington is the oldest village in Connecticut, established in 1649. It’s the perfect destination during any season, I love to take a stroll around the borough!

Here are some suggestions of what to do in Stonington:

Shop the local businesses

There are a variety of shops up and down the main street from clothing, floral, jewelry, antiques, art galleries, boutiques and more.

Walk around the borough

There are several routes in Stonington. There is a short coastline trail in front of Stonington Commons, if you walk down the paved path from the Yacht Club to the gazebo - the trail will start there. Another route is inside Dodge Paddock/Beal Preserve. Go down Wall Street and you’ll find a small lot to park in. The trail is through the marshes with views of the harbor.

Visit the locations of where movies were filmed

See the Mystic Pizza blog here. Many of the locations were filmed in Stonington. Another movie, Hope Springs starring Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones also was filmed in Stonington. You will recognize the yellow house near the Cannon Square as ‘the therapist office’ in the movie. A few Hallmark/Lifetime holiday movies also have been filmed here.

Stonington Fishermen Dock

I enjoy coming here a lot to photograph the fishing fleet. It is open to the public from dawn to dusk. Please respect the fishermen and don’t touch or use their equipments. I do have to warn, the seafood smell can be STRONG so if you don’t like the scent, this is not the place for you! There is a small lot near the overlook where you can enjoy the views (and sometime watch people fish!). Nearby the dock, you can purchase frozen seafood from Sea Well Seafood to bring home.

Old Lighthouse

Built in 1840, it has a beautiful stonework on the exterior. Recently, the museum inside the lighthouse underwent a renovation, and it looks amazing! Very open and spacious. There is an admission fee of $10 for adults. This fee will allow you entry to the tower (top of the lighthouse), the views can be breathtaking! I often enjoy the grounds of the lighthouse with my pup, as well many other dogs.

DuBois Beach

Across the street from the lighthouse is a small beach. During the summers you will need a pass to enter. During off season it is open to the public. The parking lot gives you a 360 view of the harbor. You can see the Ocean House in Watch Hill, RI. One of the best spots for sunsets!

Dine in many of Stonington’s restaurants

There are several restaurants in Stonington that are really good! My favorite breakfast spot is Indulge Coffee and Sandwich Co. Indulge, a quaint neighborhood spot with delicious egg sandwiches, coffee and more. They have gluten free options! For lunch or dinner, I love Breakwater. You cannot beat the waterfront views during the warm months. The shrimp tacos are the best! Noah’s Restaurant is also a wonderful long time institution in Stonington (40+ years!). A true local’s spot. It’s always so cozy especially during the holidays. Dog Watch Cafe is another good one! They have a dock overlooking the water and the boatyard, which is a must during the summer.

Velvet Mill

A bit way out of the borough, but not too far, is a repurposed mill with many small businesses. A variety of artists studios, antiques, clothing, health services (massage, yoga, etc), tattoo parlor, bakery to restaurants. There’s even a brewery in there. Velvet Mill is a great hidden gem in Stonington. I love stopping in Zest for the gluten free goods. Woodfella’s Pizza and Wings also has been a long time favorite of mine, both pizza and wings are so good! The best part about Velvet Mill is that it’s dog friendly too!

There are so many events that occurs in Stonington. Here are a few that I’ve attended and really enjoyed!

Tulips [April]

In the spring there are thousands of tulips blooming all around the borough. The majority of them were around the green where Stonington Free Library is. It’s always so beautiful to see. I had read somewhere that there was 3,000 tulips planted!

Gardens by the Sea [June]

The Stonington Garden Club hosts this event in June. A walking tour of gardens in the borough, where some private residences open up their property to the public for a fee. It is a very popular event in the borough, and it always is packed that weekend! The tour tickets for this event can be purchased online (Stonington Garden Club website) or on-site.

Fourth of July Parade [July]

The parade and reading of the Declaration of Independence is a tradition in the borough on Fourth of July. The Stonington Historical Society hosts this event annually. It’s always one of the best times of the year in Stonington when the whole village is decked out patriotically. Small town living at its best!

Blessing of the Fleet [July]

An annual event I always look forward to at end of July. It is a weekend long event honoring our lobstermen and their families, as well remembering the lost ones. The weekend usually starts with a 5K through the borough. On Saturday, Stonington Holy Ghost Society hosts a gathering with live music and food. On Sunday, there will be a mass at St. Mary’s Church. After the mass, there will be a ceremony at the fishermen dock. The boats are usually decked out for the ceremony - very nautical! The vessels goes out in the water where they are blessed and lay a wreath for the lost fishermen. This year, there will be an open house at the fishermen dock where you can tour some of the vessels! Read more about it here.

Village Fair [August]

A long time tradition going back to 1952, the fair consists of many vendors, games, music, food and many more. One of my favorite part, there’s a used book sale! It’s a great community event open to everyone! The fair is in the Wadawanuck Square.

Holiday stroll [December]

I regularly attend this every year. The main street is decked out in holiday garnish, the shops stays opened late, horse carriage rides, people milling around with friends, and there’s the Christmas tree lighting ceremony in the square near the library.

Stonington Lobster Trap Tree [Late November-January]

New to Stonington’s holiday tradition, there is a lobster trap tree on the green in front of the fishermen dock. It is a stunning display with amazing community involvement. All buoys are hand painted by local artists. I enjoyed visiting this tree several times last winter and appreciated all the beautiful artwork/buoys. I am very much look forward to seeing it again this winter!

100th anniversary of Mystic Drawbridge

Mystic is celebrating a huge milestone this week… the 100th anniversary of the Mystic Drawbridge! The bascule bridge is the oldest operating in the United States. Even if you haven’t been to Mystic, you will recognize the bridge on many logos, tourism ads, clothing and much more! The bridge is located in the downtown, it’s hard to miss! The bascule bridge is a movable bridge with counter weights that lifts the bridge. During the summers, it goes up every hour at the 40 mark. (8:40, 9:40, etc) from 8am-8pm. The best viewing spot is obviously in the Mystic River Park nearby.

Mystic Chamber is hosting several events to honor the 100th anniversary of the bridge. The fireworks show will be occurring in October. They also have a visitor’s center at the foot of the bridge for this summer, showcasing the history and artwork of the Mystic Drawbridge. Signature bridge souvenirs are also sold here, as well in many of Downtown shops.

Also at Groton Public Library, The Mystic River Historical Society set up a small exhibit with the history of the Mystic Drawbridge. I found it very interesting when I went there back in May. Several photos shows the drawbridge going back to the 1800’s. It is the 100th anniversary of when the bridge became moveable, opening the bridge for the first time on July 19, 1922. There also is a section about what the drawbridge was like the day ‘Mystic Pizza’ was filmed (the only scene filmed in Mystic). The exhibit will be there until October 31st, free of charge and open during library hours.

It’s amazing how many of my memories includes this landmark. I visited Mystic in the Summer of 2010 before moving here later that year. I remember standing on the drawbridge looking toward Mystic Seaport, thought about how much I fell in love with the town and could see myself living in this coastal town. Two months later, a job offer was received — just a town over! It was meant to be! When I got my Dalmatian, the first “family photo” was taken here. Many summers were spent here with my family visiting from Upstate NY. Too many fond memories to list them all!

Watching the bridge go up and down will never get old. I enjoy that 10-20 minutes of time standing still, looking around at the scenery on the river and watching the visitors in awe of the bridge (also laugh at those who aren’t familiar with the bridge’s horn). I still enjoy photographing the bridge through all seasons and at different times of the day. I admire other people’s photographs of the bridge - it’s amazing how many different photos we can get of this landmark!

The bridge isn’t the only thing to see in Mystic. Within walking distance of the bridge, in Downtown there are many shops, plethora of restaurants, art museum and galleries, diverse bookstore, ice cream shops and many more.

Here’s to another 100 years of this beautiful drawbridge in Mystic!

A Local’s Guide to Every Mystic Pizza Filming Location

When you drive through Downtown Mystic, most often you’ll see someone or a group taking a selfie photo under the Mystic Pizza sign. The pizza parlor is the inspiration for the romantic-comedy movie, Mystic Pizza. It was filmed in Mystic, CT and the surrounding areas in 1987-88.

Mystic Pizza is a romantic-comedy movie following the lives of three young women (starring Julia Roberts, Annabeth Gish and Lili Taylor) who work at Mystic Pizza as waitresses. It also follows their romantic adventures. The screenwriter was inspired when she visited Mystic Pizza to use it in the movie.

When I visited Mystic for the first time in the summer of 2010, before I officially moved here, I couldn’t help but notice the amount of people taking pictures at Mystic Pizza! This is when I learned of the movie. I had never seen the movie but when I moved here, I finally watched it. Now it is one of my favorites that I watch on repeat!

Many do not realize that the pizza parlor in Downtown Mystic wasn’t the one used in the movie. The restaurant couldn’t afford to close for the duration of the filming so they created a fictional Mystic Pizza set in Stonington. After the movie was released, the original Mystic Pizza underwent a renovation to be similar to the one in the movie. If you do go for a slice of heaven, the restaurant is filled of memorabilia of still photos, posters, etc on the walls with the movie showing on all TV’s. Mystic Pizza also offers merchandise such as t-shirts, hats, stickers, glasses and more. At the time of the movie release, Mystic Pizza couldn’t keep up with the demand so a second location opened in North Stonington in 1991. Mystic Pizza II is at 211 Providence New London Turnpike, North Stonington. The menus are very similar using the same family ingredients for their pizzas. Mystic Pizza II has a more low key setting while Mystic Pizza is mostly filled with visitors who visit Mystic. Either location is worthwhile to check out and the pizza is really good!!

I do suggest that you watch the movie first before you take the self guided tour around the Mystic region. It’s fun to see the filming locations! Do keep in mind that some are private residences, so please respect the homeowners and do not trespass on their properties.

In Mystic, Connecticut:

  • 56 W Main Street - The original Mystic Pizza (not filmed in movie, but inspired it).

  • Drawbridge - A couple scenes were filmed here. One scene is when Bill and Jojo exchanged words about the fishing boat’s rename (which was an insult to Jojo). The second scene shows Charlie driving over the drawbridge with Daisy on the way to their first date.

  • 75 Greenmanville Ave - The planetarium where Kat worked. It is the Mystic Seaport’s Treworgy Planetarium. It requires a museum admission to enter the planetarium.

  • 105 Greenmanville Ave - The pizza critic scene was filmed in the tavern at Latitude 41 Restaurant. (UPDATE: Latitude 41 is no longer there, it has been demolished).

Mystic Pizza [the inspiration] - 56 W Main St

Drawbridge [a couple scenes filmed here] - Downtown Mystic

Planetarium at Mystic Seaport Museum [Kat’s workplace] - 75 Greenmanville Ave

Latitude 41 [interior shots] - 105 Greenmanville Ave

In Stonington, Connecticut:

  • 72 Water Street - The fictional Mystic Pizza location was filmed here. It currently is the home of New England Science & Sailing Foundation (NESS).

  • 66 Water Street (behind NESS) - The interior shots of ‘Mystic Harbor Yacht Club’ where Charlie and Daisy had their first date. It is currently the Breakwater restaurant.

  • Cannon Square Park - A brief scene was shown here when Kat delivered a pizza to her mom.

  • 53 Church Street - The home of Charlie Windsor (Daisy’s boyfriend). It currently is a private residence. You can see the house from the sidewalk.

  • 201 North Main Street - 'Peg Leg Pub’ where Daisy met Charlie.

  • North Main Street x Pequot Trail - The hitchhiking scene. Charlie and Daisy were filmed here hitchhiking when Charlie’s car had a flat tire.

NESS [Mystic Pizza restaurant] - 72 Water St

Breakwater [Mystic Harbor Yacht Club] - 66 Water St

Cannon Square [Kat delivering pizza] - Stonington

Private residence [Charlie Windsor’s family home] - 53 Church St

Private property [Peg Leg Pub] - 201 N Main St

Pequot Trail [car breakdown/hitchhiking scene] - Pequot Trail x N Main St

In Pawcatuck, Connecticut:

  • 185 & 187 Mechanic Street - the homes of Daisy, Kat and Jojo. Both are currently private residences. You can view the home from the sidewalk or drive-by. The interior scenes of bedrooms/second floor were filmed at 17 Broadway Ext, Mystic (also a private residence).

  • Fishing docks - Bill’s work place was filmed in one of the marinas off Mechanic Street, right across from the houses.

Private residence [one of the girls home] - 185 Mechanic St

Private residence [the other girls’ home] - 187 Mechanic St

Marina [Bill’s workplace] - Mechanic St

In Noank, Connecticut (GPS might use Groton for city):

  • 15 Riverview Ave - Ferriera Lobsters, the workplace of Daisy and Kat’s mom. It is the location of Haring’s Noank.

  • 87 Front Street - The movie opened with the exterior of the church where Bill and Jojo’s wedding took place. It currently is a private residence. You will notice that the steeple is gone. The interior scenes were filmed at 780 State Pier Rd, New London (formerly a church, now is a homeless shelter).

Ford’s Lobster [Ferriera Lobsters] - 15 Riverside Ave

Private residence [church] - 87 Front St

In Westerly, Rhode Island:

  • Breen Street - Tim Travers’ home. The house filmed in the movie has been demolished.

  • 4 Water’s Edge Road - Tim Travers’ client home that he was renovating. It is a private residence, which you can see from the road.

  • 60 Ocean View Highway - The country club where Charlie had dinner with his sister (Daisy mistook the sister as a date). It is the location of Misquamicut Club.

Private residence [Tim’s client home he was renovating] - 4 Water’s Edge Rd

Misquamicut Club [country club] - 60 Ocean View Highway

The Mystic area has been in a few movies. A few Hallmark holiday movies were filmed in Mystic and Stonington as well other locations across the Nutmeg State. Meryl Streep and Tommy Jones filmed a movie Hope Springs (2012) in Stonington, CT. The Cannon Square was frequently shown in Hope Springs, as well the Breakwater restaurant. Mystic Pizza movie is one of the reasons why visitors come to Mystic! It’s amazing that 30+ years later, the movie is still popular. Happy hunting and don’t forget to get a slice of heaven!

Mystic Pizza’s sign in Downtown Mystic

Why I Chose Not to Get Cochlear Implants

Cochlear implants. A taboo word in the deaf world.

For those who aren’t familiar with what cochlear implants are - it’s an electronic device installed under the skin behind the ears. It consists of many parts to help transmit sounds to the outer device (it looks similar to hearing aids). This process requires surgery which is usually done in the same day or overnight. It is a common misconception that cochlear implants would cure deafness. It does not. The cochlear implants are another aid for deaf people to be able to hear some sounds and speech. After surgery, they have to go through intensive therapy on speech and learn the sounds.

So many people describe cochlear implants as a “medical miracle” but yet dumbfounded when they come across deaf people who turned it down. It is a controversial topic in the deaf community. There are some deaf people who are against it because they feel that it oppresses them so they actually frown upon the deaf people who do get cochlear implants. Most often the deaf people with cochlear implants feel rejected from the deaf community.

I learned about this controversy when I attended college. I went to Rochester Institute of Technology (RIT) which had many colleges including National Technical Institute for the Deaf (NTID). This is the reason for the large deaf community in Rochester, New York. I observed many sub groups within the deaf community at RIT. There was the “deaf pride” group who were raised by deaf parents, attended deaf institutes, fully emerged into the deaf culture. There were the “mainstreamed” folks who were raised in a hearing world but immersed some deaf culture in their lives such as using sign language. There was the “oral” group which often applied to those with cochlear implants; they often didn’t use sign language but relied on lipreading and talking. It was interesting to learn about from all kinds of D/deaf lives.

Those who are against cochlear implants don’t see their deafness as something that needs to be fixed. They use examples of successful deaf people out there in the world - famous actors/actresses, artists, athletes, and even musicians proving that there are many who are satisfied with being deaf. It’s often explained that deaf people can do everything but hear. Another reason why the fear of cochlear implants is impacting the deaf culture is the belief that if technology continues to be used to help deaf people then sign language/deaf culture would decline.

Most deaf children are born to hearing parents. It is common for doctors to push cochlear implants. With the hearing parents’ initial shock once finding out their child is diagnosed with deafness, it can provide a false sense of hope that they will be cured with cochlear implants.

During college I met so many deaf people who received cochlear implants at a young age and were no longer using it. When I asked them for their reasons, the common replies were (1) that they weren’t happy with their parents’ decision (2) it causes a lot of headaches or (3) did not see a benefit in using them/were not a successful tool for them. Those that I did know that actively used cochlear implants were the ones who decided later on in their teens/young adult years. Again, that does not apply to everyone but it was an observation I had from my college years.

So what is my opinion on cochlear implants?

My parents heard about them when I was 8 years old. They met with someone to discuss the whole process of getting cochlear implants for me. At the time, it was determined that I was not a viable candidate for cochlear implants because the company who manufactured them was very new. The technology at the time also was not advanced for my level of hearing loss (profound loss). The company was specifically targeting senior citizens who lost their hearing or late deafened people.

The technology advanced over years so cochlear implants were a possibility for me again. I was asked in my high school years if I would consider getting them. I let the fear of being in surgery prevent me from making a decision.

When I went to college, I had many friends who had cochlear implants so I was able to learn more about them. As I mentioned before, some friends described they received more headaches which I did not want. The implants also would take away any residual hearing, which I have a tiny bit of, that I wanted to hang onto! Another turn off for me was having to get the cochlear implants updated every few years so that meant going in for a few surgeries throughout my life. I still have a fear of being in any kind of surgery so that wasn’t appealing to me!

I am not against cochlear implants. I support people who want them. I have seen where it is successful for some people while it wasn’t for some other people. The key in my final decision was that I am comfortable with being deaf. I like my silence. I don’t like major changes. I couldn’t imagine going from my silent world to a world with sounds. I’ve had so many people who couldn’t understand how I would pass up on them when they could be a huge asset. The results of cochlear implants aren’t same for everyone so there is no way of knowing how successful it would be for me. It wasn’t enough of a risk for me to take because it took a long time for me to love myself as a deaf individual.

All opinion in this blog are my own. It does not reflect the opinions of other deaf members.

Catholic Church + Deaf Accessibility

With Easter last Sunday, I have been thinking about my childhood memories of going to the church and the traditional Easter gatherings with my family. I grew up Catholic, even attended Sunday school up until 4th grade. 

On Instagram, I saw a post sharing that only 2% of Deaf people know Jesus Christ. There are approximately 400+ million of Deaf people worldwide. Honestly, that post didn’t surprise me. It took me back down memory lane of growing up in the Catholic Church and the accessibility issues that I had. 

My mom was the sole interpreter for the Church masses. Of course, she would be standing next to me, and she couldn’t interpret EVERY single word.  Adding to this we were seated in the back and not all of the speakers were clearly for people sitting that far away. I also have to be transparent, I was a child/teen at same time so yes, there were times when I didn’t always listen out of boredom. 

St. Patrick’s Church - Dublin, Ireland - 2015.

Sunday school was a hour long of religious education based on grade levels. I was among peers my age/grade. I remember every morning we all started school by standing in the lobby reciting ‘The Lord’s Prayer’. The only memory I have from this, is how I would use this time to people-watch. I had a volunteer interpreter who helped me out in the classroom. I recall that she knew some basic ASL but she wasn’t certified. We had our own corner of the table, while other kids sat in groups. I attended for a few years and don’t recall any friends that I made, likely because I was isolated in the corner. I don’t have a clear memory of why I stopped attending, but I believe that my parents saw that I wasn’t getting an education out of Sunday school. 

I also stopped attending church weekly (we went every Sunday). I only went for special occasions such as Easter, Christmas, Mother’s Day, etc. It didn’t bother me that I was missing out, I was actually relieved. That continued through my college years until the last year. I got curious and tried to find a Catholic Church in Rochester, NY that would have an interpreter. Rochester, NY is home of the largest Deaf community. I couldn’t find any, or maybe I wasn’t looking in the right places. I had a close friend who was going to a Baptist church she brought me to some events. I met other Deaf Christians. I went to a Bible meeting, it was conducted in ASL. They discussed, shared thoughts, prayed, etc. I went to a few masses where they had an interpreter for the Deaf section (approximately 20 people). The church even had a blow up screen that was focused on the interpreter for people in the back to see. It was very accessible. As much I wanted to have that, I didn’t have connection with the Baptist beliefs as I was Catholic. 

I didn’t look into the church again until I moved to Connecticut. One year I was thinking about how I wish I had a better understanding of the religion that I was raised in. Especially more so with having kids in the future. I thought long and hard how my future kids would learn about being Catholic when I wasn’t confident in knowing the religion that well myself. I decided to email several of local Catholic Churches around the area asking if they were willing to hire interpreters. I received ZERO replies. 

Kylemore Abbey - Connemara, Ireland - 2017.

After a while, I felt desperate. I emailed them again and asked if they had any parishioners who knew ASL and would volunteer their time to help me during the masses. Again, ZERO replies. I contacted two different Dioceses (a region of Catholic Churches that is ran under a bishop). There was a church locally in Norwich/Preston (20-25 minutes away) that had an interpreter right before I moved to the area. Unfortunately, they didn’t have enough Deaf participants to keep the interpreter. They were nice enough to email other Dioceses and tried to find a solution for me. 

A few years later, I found a couple of Roman Catholic Churches with interpreted masses that were in Providence, Rhode Island which would be a hour and half commute from where I lived. I didn’t feel committed to making that drive weekly. Especially if I was alone. I dropped the ball on this as I didn’t see it as a priority. 

During the pandemic, what a game changer! I was able to live stream masses, there was even a Deaf priest in Boston, MA. I was amazed to watch several masses where the ENTIRE THING WAS IN SIGN LANGUAGE. I didn’t think I’d find a Deaf priest as I had been focused on interpreted masses. It was really cool to watch that. I was so excited about finding this access and I finally was learning a bit. Unfortunately, the live streaming didn’t last long as they returned to in-person masses. I was really disappointed.

Black Abbey - Kilkenny, Ireland - 2015.

I am also interfaith and to learn more about the other religion, I attended some of the Deaf Hillel club events in college. The Rabbi who ran the Deaf Hillel was fluent in ASL so all events were signed in ASL. I recall my first Passover dinner where everyone signed. I learned so much about Passover and its meaning because the Rabbi signed the entire time. I felt guilt sometimes because I felt like I knew a LOT about the Jewish religion more than Catholic. All it took was having accessibility!

It’s always frustrating to have limited accessibility. It also doesn’t help when the religion itself is so complex. Even within the same religion, people have different beliefs and ideologists. There are so MANY types of religion, yet ZERO access for us. Many Deaf people don’t know religion. I felt like it was something important because a huge part of my childhood revolved around growing up in the Catholic Church. 

It took a long time for me to stop feeling guilty for something that is out of my control (lack of accessibility). I had been so focused on finding the accessibility that I forgot to spiritually connect in my own time. There had been few years when I didn’t feel like I was Catholic. I realized that I don’t need to be in a church to proof that I’m Catholic. I’ll continue to believe in what I know already and spiritually connect in my own way. Hopefully someday I can walk in a Catholic Church and have the accessibility provided as it should be for everyone. 

St. Mary’s Cathedral - Killarney, Ireland - 2015

Mystic Deaf History

Did you know that Mystic, Connecticut has some deaf history?!

I never knew this until a few years of living here. I bumped into some older Deaf adults who all told me about their former deaf school… which happened to be right here in Mystic. It used to be The Whipple Home School which established in Ledyard, Connecticut then moved a few miles away, in order to expand to Mystic. 

Mystic Oral School.

First some history tidbits. In 1869, Whipple Home School was built in Ledyard, Connecticut (formerly known as Quakertown) by the grandson of Jonathan Whipple who successfully taught his deaf son, Enoch how to lip read and speak. Zerah Whipple, the grandson, wanted to continue the success of teaching oralism to other deaf students. The first student to come to the school was a 12 Y/O boy from a rich family in Delaware, a few years later he completed his education with great lipreading and speaking skills. Zerah began to receive more students and was getting crammed in the farmhouse so he bought Silas Burrows, a retired sea captain's mansion in Mystic on a hilltop overlooking the Mystic River.

The mansion that perched on 77+ acres was reformed into a residential school where deaf students lived while they attended school. The main focus was lipreading and speaking, no usage of sign language. They continued the oralism method. There was another deaf institute a hour away in Hartford, Connecticut which is known as American School for the Deaf today. It was known as the “sign school in Hartford” during the 1900’s. All students who attended the ‘signing school’ had a free education; however, there was an admission cost to attend Whipple’s school in Mystic.

Many families were impressed with the oralism method since it made the deaf people be more immersed in the hearing world. More families wanted their deaf kids to attend the school but Whipple did not have enough funds. In July 1872, Zerah Whipple got state aid to allow more students to attend. The Whipple Home School was given over to the state of Connecticut causing the name change to the Mystic Oral School (again later changed to Mystic Educational Center). Mystic Oral School faced chronic financial troubles and challenges with the oralism method (which declined over the years) but survived at least for 108 years.

Mystic Oral School shut down in 1980 after funds ran out. In that last year, the state tried to bring ‘mentally retarded’ (please read the disclaimer about this terminology) students to the school. The admission numbers of students attending Mystic Oral School had declined so they were looking to fill up space at the school. The Department of Mental Retardation had a waiting list of 170 students, the school had space for 55 students. Many parents of the deaf argued against this idea with their lawyers, stating that mixing deaf students with these students give credence to the stereotype of ‘deaf and dumb’. As a result, 5-4 opposed this idea. 

DISCLAIMER: While I do understand the use of terminology is not encouraged in the present day. It was the terminology used back in 1979 and was the actual name of the Department. 

A year later it was closed permanently. The town of Groton used the space for their Park & Recreation programs until 2011. The school had been abandoned since then. It has been in long need of renovation to preserve the historical site. 

In November 2019, Respler Homes LLC purchased the land. Their plans showed their vision of turning the oral school into a ‘mixed use village’ named Mystic River Bluffs. The village consisted of luxury apartments, restaurant, office spaces, coffee shop, market, etc. The project became controversial in the community. You might’ve seen the red lawn signs that stated ‘Restrict the MOS Development’ pop up around the area. The signs came from the group Mystic Oral School Advocates (MOSA). MOSA is a group of citizens to express concerns about the project. Their main concern is that the sizing of the project was too large that it needed to be scaled back or eliminated, they also focused on zoning changes that would not harm the neighborhood/rural nature. 

After 10 years of MOS being abandoned, the property unfortunately degraded overtime and was vandalized. In early 2021, I was filming a quick video in front of the school explaining the Deaf history of MOS when a re-development team leader from Respler Homes LLC was checking the property. We engaged in a conversation and we had a dialogue about the future of MOS. He offered to show me the inside of the school, I was thrilled to see some of the history! 

Walking around the interiors gave me a mixed feeling. I was so amazed by the history, seeing the old classrooms, main office/lobby, dorms, staff quarters, cafeteria and old performing stage. Yet on the other hand, I was saddened by the vandalism (graffiti, broken windows, wallpapers torn down). Some of it was from state testing from hazardous materials but mostly from vandalism. The property definitely had a long way to go! 

After a long year of going back and forth to move ahead with the project, it has stalled. The future for MOS is unknown at this time. I hope with the right people and with plans that works for the community life will be brought back into the beautiful historical site! 

Perched on a hilltop overlooking Mystic River (look closely thru the branches, that’s the water!)

The former infirmary. CORRECTION 1/27/21 this is the former house of the Superintendent.

The old gym/pool.

Inside tour: the former cafeteria.

The staircase.

Old classrooms (the walls had to be demolished so only the framing is left).

Another old classroom.

Old classroom. Did you notice the ceiling fan melted from the heat?!

Hallway between Pre-K section of the school and staff quarters.

One of the rooms in the staff quarters. The night shift staff lived in those rooms during the day.

Old performing stage.

Outside courtyard near the former cafeteria.

Exterior of the school.

Former entrance to the dorms.

Loved the ship weathervane!

Mystic has a ‘sign name’ representing the oral school history. If you look up the sign for “oral”, it will make sense. The letter Y was picked from Mystic to place on chin as shown in the photo below to be the sign name for Mystic. See more videos on Instagram here.

Showing the sign name for MYSTIC. It is close to the sign for “oral”.

Showing the sign name for MYSTIC. It is close to the sign for “oral”.

Historical information was learned from several library books.

All opinions in this blog are my own.

Book Review: Signs of Survival

International Holocaust Remembrance Day occurs on January 27th every year to commemorate the Holocaust victims. January 27th was the day Auschwitz was liberated. 


I had many books related to Holocaust/WWII on my To-Read list. I thought I’d read some stories for this month in honor of the Holocaust Remembrance Day, along with a new released book. Just released on January 4th, Signs of Survival wrote by Renee Hartman with Joshua M. Greene is a memoir of the Holocaust. Renee is a survivor, with her deaf sister. The book focused on their experiences as Jews living during the war and the camp. 


Signs of Survival is a children’s book for age 8-12, so it had 128 pages. I read the entire book in one hour. It was an easy read and kept me me drawn to their stories. It is a very raw and powerful read. This book is a transcribed compilation of video interviews that Renee did for Yale’s Holocaust testimonies archive. The book does alternates between Renee and her deaf sister, Herta. 


There aren’t too many stories including deaf people during the Holocaust so that was why I picked up this book. I only wish that Renee and Herta could share more of their experiences as this short book was very impactful and powerful. I could feel the strong sisterly bond between them that preserved them through the hard times at the camp. 


I had no idea that Renee resided in New Haven, CT so this has a New England connection too. As I mentioned, she had shared this similar story in a video interview for Yale. I was able to find it via Google and watch it. I have appreciation for her sharing her story. It is tough. 


This book comes highly recommended, as I said there aren’t too many stories out there related to Holocaust with deafness or other disabilities. I am grateful that Renee and Herta shared their perspectives with us. Their stories will stay in my heart! 

A Local’s Love Letter to Pennywise in Mystic

As I looked back at my past Christmas memories, I had a realization. For the last 5 years, my Christmas outfits came from Pennywise in Mystic, CT. Pennywise is a high quality consignment store that had been around since 1988. Owned by mother and daughter, they sell women’s clothing, accessories and shoes as well men’s clothing. 

Pennywise shop.

When I moved to Connecticut a decade ago, I discovered their shop that was on Cottrell Street (now Mystic Knotwork). I shopped there several times then they closed that shop and moved everything over to the Greenmanville shop across from Mystic Seaport. I shopped there even more when I hit the Lilly Pulitzer phase for a few years. 

Shopping for Kentucky Derby dress in 2016.

Pennywise sells many great quality and popular brands. They are selective about the brands, as not all will be accepted to be sold in the store. A few of brands I frequent are JCrew, Vineyard Vines, LOFT and Levi’s. Other brands I’ve seen: Madewell, Anthropologie, Banana Republic, Ralph Lauren, Gap and many more. Sometimes the clothing are still brand new with the original tags attached. 

The shop is very well organized. It can be overwhelming but it’s easy enough to navigate through. It’s a two story building with mostly women’s clothing and accessories on the first floor. More women’s clothing and men’s clothing are upstairs. Every time I pop in to shop, I check their color sticker sale of the day. For example: red tags are 25% off - if you find a clothing item with a red sticker tag then it is 25% off. They always have two colors each day that are discounted. 

Loved this red Vineyard Vines sweater!

The prices are reasonable for the designer brands and very affordable for other brands! They really do a great job selecting which clothes they consign - you won’t find any with stains, holes, or weird smell! I’ve always been apprehensive about shopping in thrift stores - secondhand never appealed to me. Pennywise has changed my stance on that but it is the only consignment store I will shop at! 

The customer service is always top notch. As I mentioned, it is owned by mother and daughter team. At least one of them is always there each time I popped in. They have always been helpful in locating items I am looking for or for finding things I would want. One time I passed by the shop and spotted a cute coat on the mannequin outside of the shop. I did a U-turn and popped in to ask what size/price it was. I felt bad about making her do all the work taking it off, I was really hoping it was my size… luckily it was! Even better that it was a great price! Hooray! 

The coat I literally bought off the mannequin! (the brown sweater is also from Pennywise).

A few years after shopping there, I decided to consign my clothes. The system is very effective and easy. I brought in my clothes and they will take 5-10 minutes to sort through and take what will sell in the shop. The clothes will stay on the floor for 6-8 weeks and the unsold will be donated to a charity. A win-win to make a little money and have it donated to appropriate places! The shop keeps 50% of the profits, the consigners will get the other 50%. It’s the best percentage I’ve seen compared to other consignment stores. Also, if you made money - you can request a check on the spot. Otherwise it will stay in the system as store credit which you can use if you buy things. 

Time definitely had flew by, it’s hard to believe that I have been shopping at this shop for 10 years now. Does anyone remember Steve the cat? I miss my buddy! He was the shop cat who lived there and would rub up against my leg while I was shopping or he would be napping on the counter. He lived a long life and passed away a few years ago. It’s not the same to pop in there without Steve’s greeting. 

Be sure to visit this shop, they have a wide variety of brands and prices for everyone! You will guarantee find something to buy! I love that I unexpectedly made it a Christmas tradition to buy my outfit from there each year. It’s something I’ll have to continue! 

Pennywise is located at 22 Greenmanville Ave, across from Mystic Seaport and half mile away from downtown Mystic. If you aren’t local… don’t fret. They started selling online and offer free shipping over $100+. Website can be found here. Happy shopping! 

JCrew button up shirt.

LOFT sweater.

Talbots sweater.

JCrew cashmere brown top.

Interpreters

The topic of interpreters… I’ve put this off for a while, after receiving some questions. So here I am, addressing some questions!

First of all, interpreters can be quite the discussion! We could talk all day long so I’ll keep it short for this blog. I have a strong appreciation for them as they help to facilitate communication between both worlds. Without them, it wouldn’t be possible for me to get the information or get my words across. They work hard interpreting for hours at times, with the constant signing (I can’t even write for hours without my hands cramping!). Interpreters also don’t come without some challenges. As the costs of hiring them can be daunting for some businesses/offices resulting in hiring non certified interpreters.

How do I know if my interpreter is certified? Most of time I can look up the registry database online. When I have medical appointments, I do not know who they call so it was common for me to go to my appointments not knowing if I will have a certified interpreter. I am stuck with whatever interpreter that is there that day. I often ask which agency they worked for to keep in mind if I want to request the same individual again.

Why is a certified interpreter important? It’s highly preferred as they completed a program and passed exams. No difference from you preferring a certified contractor to fix your broken porch over a self-taught contractor. This is an issue because most places will not hire a certified interpreter due to higher costs. If you’re certified, the more pay, right? As a result sometimes we end up with a lower caliber interpreter.

Have you seen two interpreters at the same time at an event, or sometimes there’s only one… and wondered why is that? The more interpreters you have, the better quality of information being interpreted. After 20 minutes, the quality of signing usually decreases. So if there’s a second person, that will allow them the rest they need. It is common for them to switch every 20 minutes to keep more accurate translation. I also like it when the resting interpreter sits, still pays attention to what is being said and adds whatever the interpreter forgot to translate. They definitely help to keep each other in check!

People don’t always realize that even with the interpreters translating for me, it’s not always my voice. Wait… what? Imagine this… you know the telephone/grapevine game? Where you have a group of 6 people… you tell one person at a time a sentence then it jumbles somewhere through the game and the last person says something completely different? Sometimes that’s what happens with interpreting. This leads to another question I’ve got… do I trust them? Sometimes. As much as I appreciate them being that bridge between both worlds, it is hard to put all of me in. I constantly am lip reading them to make sure they are repeating what I say.

With that, has there been any embarrassing moments? Yes, several. The most recent memory I have is at a doctor’s appointment after having a sore throat for a week. I was sharing my sore throat remedies I had been doing at home. I said that I’m constantly eating cough drops. The interpreter translated “I’m constantly eating ice cream”. The doctor smiled at me and I saw my family member speak up. We laugh about it now, but imagine if that person hadn’t been there!

I’ve shared that I’m not thrilled with the skill of interpreters in my area as I live in an area of few deaf people. The majority of interpreters are in metropolis cities an hour away. I’ve had my family member interpreting for me at all of my medical appointments for the last few years now. I know it’s not technically the right thing but I just had enough of the bad experiences. It’s hard because I know my decision of not requesting interpreters is not helping to educate the doctors and medical offices that they are supposed to provide me one. It’s also not fair that my family member is doing it for free too.

I don’t always love having my ‘words’ translated by someone else, but it’s the only way I can be a contributing member of the community. Well, the other option would be everyone knowing sign language… but not realistic! I also don’t like that people aren’t really getting to know me. They’re hearing my words through someone else’s voice. I even got that comment when I started this blog, how some were realizing and learning about MY VOICE. Imagine having your mom, spouse, brother or a stranger say everything you want. It doesn’t always match.

I’ve had interpreters since I was in elementary school. I was in a special education classroom with a teacher that signed but I still had an interpreter that came with me to my mainstreamed classes in the afternoons. When I transferred schools, I had one same interpreter with me all day long. She worked so hard to convey information and share my words. There was a misconception that she was my mom! Many classmates thought that. I noticed that it is a common misconception with permanent interpreters.

When I moved to Rochester, NY … home of one of the largest deaf communities, there were a boatload of interpreters compared to my rural hometown. Interpreters were not as much of an issue but it doesn’t mean that I still ran across some ‘bad’ ones but it was rare. I miss the quality of interpreters in Rochester all the time! I constantly had different interpreters for every class in college, always had two for each class. I saw the difference in having a team vs being solo. It made me appreciate my high school interpreter even more for her hard work!

The topic of interpreters could be discussed more in depth, both positivity and negatively. Despite the bad/challenges, they are a huge help! I get excited when I see an interpreter on TV for press briefings, at a concert, or anywhere really! I appreciate their effort in helping my community to be inclusive.

Deaf Movies/TV series

It’s binge watching season! With the colder weather here, we’re starting to stay indoors more. Ever since the blog I wrote about the movie ‘CODA’ last summer, many have asked if there were more Deaf movies/TV shows. I’m finally here to give you the scoop!


Deaf movies to watch:

Children of a Lesser God (1986)

This is probably the most well known deaf movie. Marlee Matlin, a deaf actress, won the Academy Award for her role. It is about a new speech teacher who fell in love with a deaf janitor while working at a deaf institute. He pursues her to use her voice/learn speech as she wasn’t verbal. This is a good movie, but really focuses on speech/oral aspect of deafness. It’s also ‘based’ in New England (but actually was filmed in Canada)!

Sound of Metal (2019)

A powerful movie! It follows the journey of a rock band drummer who lost his hearing. It showed how he was in a hurry to find a quick ‘fix’ or cure. While he was re-adjusting to his life without hearing, he was immersed in a small deaf community in which he learned about the deaf culture. I thought this movie was perfect for people who are stuck in both worlds! I also loved how the deafness was portrayed as a culture, not a physical disability in the movie.

Audible (2021) Netflix

This short 40 minutes documentary focuses on a deaf football player at Maryland School for the Deaf. It shows clips of his life as an athlete, a friend who lost someone to suicide and being a teenager. It also interviewed some other deaf people. The documentary captured a lot of moments showing what it feel like to be immersed in the deaf world. 

…and Your Name is Jonah (1979)

The deaf boy had been misdiagnosed so he was institutionalized with intellectually disabled. It shows the journey of the deaf boy adjusting to living with his family. This movie is a great example of language deprivation.

The Hammer (2010)

A biography/drama/sports movie about Matt Hamill, the first deaf wrestler to win a NCAA. It followed his youth years in Ohio, discovering wrestling then his success during college. I was particularly excited when this was released back in 2011 because he is a RIT (Rochester Institute of Technology) alumni. Go Tigers! I really enjoyed this movie, which had many deaf actors/actresses! The movie also was filmed through out Rochester, NY. It is one of my favorite deaf movies.

A Quiet Place (2018)

A horror/sci-fic movie about a family living in silence to hide from monsters with ultra-sensitive hearing. One of the family member is a deaf girl so the entire family uses sign language to communicate. Horror/Sci-Fic is NOT my genre at all, but I had to watch this movie. I felt like it was more suspenseful thriller but enjoyed it a lot! The girl is played by a deaf actress, Millicent Simmonds. Also, A Quiet Place II was released this year, but I haven’t seen it yet!  

Sound and Fury (2000)

A wonderful documentary showing the controversial of cochlear implants. It shows the conflict of deaf identity and struggling to belong. Definitely worthwhile to watch!

Sweet Nothing in my Ear (2008)

Another movie about cochlear implants. It is a family drama about a hearing man and his deaf wife (played by Marlee Matlin) who are conflicted on whether their deaf son should get the cochlear implants. This showed all sides/opinions. 

Born to be Wild (1995)

This may not be classified as a ‘deaf movie’ but sign language is included. It’s a kid-friendly movie of a gorilla learning sign language to communicate. The gorilla develops a relationship with a rebel teenager and they communicate using ASL. It is a cute and heartwarming movie!

Listen to Your Heart (2010)

One of my favorites! Ironically it is music-based movie which I try to avoid. A singer fell in love with a deaf girl, but the love inspires him to write music. It is a romantic drama movie, but it shows that nothing is impossible! 


If you want to binge on TV series. There are some recommendations: 

Deaf U (2020) Netflix

A reality series following several deaf students at Gallaudet University in Washington DC. I felt like I was watching ‘Real World’ on MTV but with deaf college students! I do have to warn, this series is unfiltered. 

Switched at Birth (2011-2017)

A drama series starting out with a hearing girl who found out that she was accidentally switched when she was a baby. She meets the other baby that she was switched with, which was a deaf girl. They both immersed into each other’s lives. A lot of deaf culture and aspects are portrayed in the show. A fun and worthwhile series to binge!  

Deaf Out Loud (2018)

Only 1 season, this documentary follows around three deaf families. I am so, so, so sad that more seasons were not signed for this show. I loved it! It showed a variety of deaf identities, how all deaf people aren’t the same and different opinions. If you want a glimpse of true deaf world, this is the show to watch. Also, one of the deaf families is based in Connecticut! 

Sue Thomas FB Eye (2002-2005)

A police-drama TV series following a deaf FBI agent who works in fingerprinting. Another agent noticed her lip reading skills promoting her to an elite surveillance team. This is inspired by Sue Thomas, a deaf woman who works for FBI so this show is loosely based on her life. 


There are many more that I haven’t seen yet. I have a long list of movies to watch! Hope you enjoy some of those and let me know what you think!